Can a relationship survive infertility?
What are the emotional tolls of infertility on a relationship?
How many couples break up due to infertility? Studies suggest that the emotional toll of infertility contributes to the breakdown of many relationships, with some research indicating that couples experiencing infertility are three times more likely to divorce. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
Infertility isn’t just a medical condition—it’s an emotional storm that shakes the foundation of your relationship. Each negative pregnancy test chips away at hope. Every failed cycle brings more stress, more questions, and often, more distance between you and your partner.
One of the biggest, unspoken struggles? Infertility can take the sexy out of sex. When you’re told to have sex every day or every other day, it starts feeling more like a chore than a moment of intimacy. The passion you once shared can start to feel like an obligation, leading to resentment toward both the act and each other. Suddenly, what was once a source of joy and connection becomes a source of stress and pressure, creating even more strain on your relationship. It’s hard to feel attractive or desired when intimacy has been reduced to a means to an end rather than an expression of love.
Maybe one of you copes by throwing yourself into work or distractions, while the other feels abandoned in the grief. Maybe conversations have become tense, or worse, you’ve stopped talking about the future altogether. These struggles are real, and they’re valid. But they don’t have to be the end of your love story.
The big toll infertility has on a relationship
Signs your relationship may be affected by infertility.
Emotional Distance: You feel like roommates instead of partners.
Communication Breakdowns: Conversations turn into arguments—or don’t happen at all.
Shift in Priorities: One partner dives into work or hobbies while the other feels left behind.
Sex Feels Like a Job: The spark is gone, and intimacy feels forced or transactional.
Questioning the Future: Doubts creep in about your path forward as a couple.
If any of this resonates, take a deep breath. Healing is possible. Let’s talk about how to reconnect and strengthen your relationship—even in the midst of infertility.
Steps to Reconnect and Heal your relationship while trying to conceive.
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings—Together
Infertility brings grief, frustration, and sadness. Instead of burying those emotions, create space to share them. Try saying, “I know this has been so hard on both of us, and I want to make sure we’re in this together.” Acknowledging each other’s pain is the first step toward healing.
2. Prioritize Intentional Communication
Set aside time—without distractions—to talk openly. Use “I” statements instead of blame: “I feel distant, and I miss us.” Even a 10-minute daily check-in can help rebuild trust and connection.
3. Make Space for Love Outside of Trying to Conceive
This one is huge. Infertility can make intimacy feel clinical or pressured. Instead of focusing on conception, focus on connection. Plan a date night, revisit an old shared hobby, or simply hold hands and watch a favorite movie. Small moments of joy add up. And if sex feels like a chore? Take a break from the schedule and find ways to enjoy intimacy without the pressure of making a baby.
4. Seek Fertility Support—Together
Infertility can feel isolating, but you don’t have to navigate it alone. Counseling, support groups, and fertility-focused programs can provide guidance and a sense of community. If you haven’t looked into Fertility Blooms programs we have a special group call with the guys included.
How Fertility Blooms can help save your relationship while going through infertility.
The Fertility Flow Program is designed to support couples through every aspect of this journey, including the emotional toll it takes on relationships. We offer:
Group Support Calls: A safe space to share, connect, and hear from others who truly understand.
Special Sessions for Men: Infertility isn’t just a women’s issue—our sessions help men feel heard and supported, too.
Personalized Guidance: Tools and strategies to rebuild intimacy and strengthen your bond.
Helping you save your relationship while going through infertility
Rebuilding Love After Infertility: Your Relationship Deserves a New Chapter
Infertility may challenge your relationship, but it doesn’t have to break it. With the right support, you can come out even stronger.
The Fertility Flow Program is here to help. Book a session today, (Tap Here) to see how we can move your fertility journey foward while preserving your relationship.